It’s no secret we live in a world of distractions. Just about everyone I know, myself included, could probably get medication for A.D.D. One report shows that 7% of children age 5-17 were diagnosed with ADHD in 2003 and then 11% in 2011. In 2016 there was a 43% increase. Email, Text messages, Social Media, Politics, the distractions are endless. I have gone 5 months without blogging because of being politically distracted and not wanting to rant on that subject. So many have become “experts.” So, I have set out to uncover and practice at least 3 ways that I can detox from Weapons of Mass Distraction.
A confession is in order. I believe for the most part that I am abandoned to God. I don’t want to say “for the most part.” I have to, however, to keep any semblance of truth. My actions prove otherwise.
Just when I think I am ‘in a groove,’ The wrong person says the wrong thing… The worst situation happens at the worst possible time… The unthinkable is thought by someone about me… and actually said out loud!
Let’s face it, us guys are a little like dogs. Being a guy, I can respectfully say that. Hey, it’s not all bad! People love dogs! But dogs think whatever is happening will continue to happen forever. Don’t believe me?
Try throwing a tennis ball for a dog or scratching his head.
When you leave a dog, he looks out the window like he will never see you again.
When you come back, it’s as though you will never leave, even if you leave at the same time everyday for years.
There is no shortage of information on the subject of communication. Bookstore shelves are full of them. Being fascinated with the subject, I have read more than a few. It is the source of every conflict but at the same time, it is the source of healing every conflict. No matter what situation you’re in, the right communication will make it better and the wrong communication will make it worse. Here are three types of communication that are worth mastering.
What are the key ingredients to a long-lasting relationship? Imagine if love could be dissected and the traits that make it up could be labeled and explained. Which of those traits could we actually work on in ourselves to improve our relationships?
Hey, wait a minute! Shouldn’t love just feel right and stay feeling right forever?
Let me put it this way: If that were real life wouldn’t we all be able to give lots of examples where that is happening? (Involving people we actually know?!) I am convinced that all relationships require effort, but it doesn’t have to be so difficult that we feel like our efforts aren’t paying off. That is the purpose of this post.
If you look around, it’s not hard to draw the conclusion that integrity is a nearly forgotten term in today’s society. Just watch a couple of Presidential debates and you’ll realize that even the most powerful people in the world have a problem getting speech and actions to coexist. The people who create the most positive change in the world, however, not only have integrity, they consistently work to build it and maintain it. According to Webster, “Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that you refuse to change.” That’s good but I like the Urban Dictionary’s definition: “Doing the right thing when nobody’s looking.” That is certainly evidence of integrity. I have found that learning to use one simple word is a key to building integrity. I believe it can help you too.
I expect that many folks who read this particular blog will read this knowing Danny. They will undoubtedly be one of his literally countless friends who like myself, consider themselves unique. That Danny was somehow “their” friend. See, Danny is like that. He has an ability to which we all aspire: ‘Understand the conversation going on in someone’s head and become part of it.’ Danny goes a step further. He becomes part of the conversation… and cares. How I would truly love to have more of that character.
“Problems.” If you are not having one, you have had one. If you’re not in the middle of one now, chances are you know someone that is and that sometime down the road, that person will be you. Things don’t always go our way, right?
There is high value in seeing the value in problems.
Especially since we have determined they are inevitable for ourselves, and for others.
When it comes down to it, we are put in performance situations more than we realize. Not acting fake, but actually being real in fake situations. Whether you are in a meeting where you need to present an idea or product, trying to buy or sell an expensive item or property, at a job interview or meeting someone for the first time… all of these are ‘manufactured’ situations. So, it’s not about creating a fake personality in a real situation but more, the act of making decisions and presenting yourself or performing in a fabricated or unnatural environment. I’ve been fortunate enough to meet many professional performers… from local folks to mega stars like George Strait and Blake Shelton. The bigger the performer, the more of one thing I’ve noticed…
I love the story about the old man who carves duck decoys. You may have heard it but it has a powerful message. It goes something like this: Walter walks into a new friend’s home for the first time. The home is small but neat and orderly. What got Walter’s attention were the duck carvings on the shelves. There weren’t many but Walter couldn’t keep his eyes off them. They were exquisite; carved in perfect detail.